Many years ago, in the year of 1992, I was in 4th grade. My school had this policy where the girls could wear hats but the boys couldn’t. I thought this was stupid. If the girls could wear large, distracting hats why couldn’t the boys? *I had a classmate who always wore obnoxious sun-hats, and I just wanted to wear my Dallas Cowboys hat.
One day I asked my teacher why boys couldn’t wear hats. Her response was “if it matches your outfit, I don’t see why you couldn’t”. This delighted my young brain! When I got home I began my plan. “Mom, I need a Dallas Cowboys outfit!”
See, as a Dallas Cowboys fan growing up in Buffalo Bills country in the early 90’s was both a defiant act and an aggressive one. I wanted to show my pride.
So my mom followed through. She bought some Cowboys fabric, a pants and shirt pattern for the sewing machine and made me amazing Dallas Cowboys clothes.
Then, once all the “matching” Dallas Cowboys clothes were ready, I was prepared. That morning I excitedly doused myself in Dallas Cowboys logos, with the crowning piece being my Dallas Cowboys cap being that last and most important.
I was filled with pride. I was going to game the system and wear a hat, that “matched” my outfit. I felt victorious. I was gonna get to wear a hat, anger Bills fans, and have a great day!
First period starts. Teacher tells me to take my hat off. I refuse, saying: ” Girls can wear hats, this matches my outfit. I was told that made it okay.” Teacher be decided it wasn’t. Since I refused to comply, I was sent to the office.
I was forced to meet with the Vice Principal. I explained my motivation to her. Defended myself the best my 4th grade brain could. At the end I was told to go back to class.
The next morning, during announcements, the VP said “Starting tomorrow, girls are no longer allowed to wear hats on school premises.”
I won. Just not how I wanted to. Still, a great victory and a life-lesson learned!